Rethinking Sex: A Provocation, co-written by Valerie Hunt and Fiona Sturges, is an eye-opening, steamy exploration of casual sex and the post-feminist world — including moving stories about some of the women who have experienced harassment and rape during their “hookups.”

I am in a long term relationship with my boyfriend of almost three years. I’m not sure if I will still be in a relationship with him in a few months’ time, and if so, what we will be doing. I feel in my chest a burning desire for someone else and am not sure if it is a male or female desire. I have been out with guys for quite a few months, or maybe even a year, but I now feel I want a new man as soon as possible. I want to go out and just have a few fun nights out with someone without the responsibility of the boyfriend thing — being over eighteen, no fake ID and drinking if I want (I don’t). I live in Newcastle and want to find someone in the Newcastle / Newcastle City Centre area and I know a lot of people there from university — but my university friends are either too old or too busy with their careers for me. What I really want is just to have a few fun nights and enjoy being with someone else. I don’t want to date someone forever, just if you’re interesting and want to have a few drinks, go for a quick bite, and then hopefully move on. If it goes further than that, it will all be up to you. I am a student nurse, which takes me out a lot, but I like this person because he is at a similar level to me.
I feel like an alcoholic hooking up with different people as I’m drunk. I was single before I met this person and I’m happy I’m now dating again because it feels like a real relationship. However, I worry because it feels so controlling and is destroying friendships, as I am always ready to forgive someone and put myself out for them. I wish it was not like this.
Exasperatingly, it is easier for men to escape from the demanding nature of an erotic encounter on a dating app than a female recipient. It may be easier for men to swipe right, find „likes”, and build satisfaction around an experience with an online date than for a woman who has had her feelings hurt or dealt with

Risks of Casual Sex
Having casual sex has many benefits when done responsibly, but it comes with its own set of risks. There are two main types of risks: the sexual and the non-sexual ones. The most serious sexual risk is STDs — when you have casual sex, you are significantly increasing your risk of catching an STI like herpes, chlamydia, HPV, and gonorrhea.
If you know you are promiscuous, you should always wear protection for anal sex and other sexual activities that increase your risk of catching diseases. For some, casual sex is just part of life: You may be interested in many people, and you may try to find a way to experience a new person every now and then.
What Should I Do If I’m Caught Having Casual Sex?
Of course, there are consequences for having casual sex. For example, if you have sex outside of a committed relationship, your partner could tell. They might even report you to the police — and depending on the state you live in, if you are found to have sex without a condom, you could be sent to jail. You can stop casual sex if you want to.
I don’t expect you to hate sex. If it’s important to you, it’s a pleasure, and a great one at that. The point is to make sure that you know what you’re getting into before you do it. This is to preserve your sexual energy. The minute you have sex with someone you don’t really like, the pleasure you should’ve been feeling is going to drain off.
In the words of STI specialist Dr. Jonathan Berman, „When you have casual sex, you have more sex.” That doesn’t mean you should do it all the time. Sometimes you can have casual sex when you know someone, and know that it’s not a lifetime commitment.
But you should absolutely try to have less casual sex. That’s because we aren’t built to do it. The more of this type of sex you do, the harder it becomes to have sexual intercourse with someone — even just vaginal intercourse — that’s important to you. It gets so strained, in fact, that eventually you can have hardly any sex at all and still feel some deep connection. That is how you become addicted to sex. The urge to have it seems irresistible. And you end up hating the person you are in a relationship with.
Giving a preference is no guarantee of safety.
The other risk that comes with casual sex is with

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